A certificate I’m very proud of

It’s been a busy few months to say the least – both at work and personally. Here’s a big thing I haven’t shouted about enough, though. A couple of months ago I passed my final coaching performance evaluation.

It’s been fantastic to see the impact that offering coaching alongside culture and comms consulting can have. But witnessing the personal growth that my clients have displayed as a result of being given time to think is the biggest privilege.


They’ve also said some lovely things about what it’s like to be coached by me:

“Coaching with Helen has been transformative. By the first session I knew what I needed to work on and by the second session I was already seeing change in the way I lead and manage a global team. It brought awareness to things I knew were important and allowed me to make a conscious choice, with a key set of skills, to activate these things. It was powerful to look more closely at the inner beliefs I hold about myself and how these play out in the workplace, and then find tangible ways to change behaviours for the better. It has made my working life much more self-aware, empowering and easier! And I feel accountable to continue to do the work.”

Global Charity Head

“Helen had a big influence on my leadership style and capability. By providing a perfect balance of listening, guiding, resources and questions that challenged me to think about and review aspects of my approach, I have been able to identify areas of my leadership to work on and refine.” 

Director of Consultancy, Impact and Influence

“Helen demonstrates wonderful coaching techniques, she truly listens, and puts you at the centre of her practice; I found she really believed in me (even when I didn’t believe in myself).” 

Chief People Officer

“I found valuable clarity on the steps I need to take, and it wasn’t at all stuffy or scary!” 

Engineer

If you’re interested in what it’s like to be coached by me, do get in touch for a free discovery call.

How to Lead with Purpose

A year or so after I had jumped from (un)comfortable employment into the cavern of self-employed uncertainty, I benefited from a few sessions of Liam Black’s gloves off mentoring.

We talked about pricing, career arcs, what I wanted my retirement to look like (I’d never given that any thought), Imposter Syndrome and my ‘Purpose’. Four years on, as I look back at my naiveté in those conversations, I cringe just like Elsa at the end of Frozen 2.

But that’s a sign of growth. I think.

I admire Liam’s ‘loving boot’ approach greatly and will take inspiration from it into my leadership and communications coaching… more on that soon.  

Best bits

Here are my personal best bits from Liam’s book. Buy it, read it. It’s pithy, provoking and funny. 

On purpose-washing

“‘Sustainababble’: The verbiage produced by corporate marketing teams to distract from the truth that very little of any substance is changing yet.”

Coined by Tariq Fancy, BlackRock’s Chief Investment Officer, 2021

Just don’t. Acknowledge where you are. Say nothing if you’ve got nothing of note to say. 

On work-life ‘balance’

“‘Is it really possible’, Caroline asked me, ‘to change the world and be home in time to change the nappies?’ These conversations are where noble world-changing visions and the grind of domestic relationships collide (especially for women).”

A pithy articulation of a question I’ve asked myself many times. Disappointingly (but understandably), the book leaves this question unanswered.

I asked Liam (and a friend, Cleo) about it and we surmised, “no”. Or, “maybe”, if you take your baby to work. “Maybe”, if you have another person to rely on as carer and housekeeper.

I’m a feminist, but sometimes I daydream about the simplicity of 1950s gender roles. (I snap out of it quickly, though).  

On Imposter Syndrome

“Everyone has some variant of this imposter drama except for psychopaths and some FTSE CEOs I have had the misfortune to meet.” 

It is good to know that I’m in good company, then. Liam’s advice? 

Fact-check those voices. Write down all the thoughts going through your head and then rigorously and robustly fact check them. Doing this with someone like a mentor or coach helps, as they can bring the perspective you need but that’s hard to find when the “mind monkeys” are creating a cacophony inside your head.

And, ever practical; “One way of not being found out is to make sure that you are bloody well on your game when you need to be”.

On culture change

“Most leaders know what is required to change a culture but have had the courage and staying power knocked out of them. Relentless incremental change is what can get you there. Beware the grandiose innovation plan”

Sir Martin Narey

This is becoming more and more clear to me as I work with different organisations. It’s the reason I have some clients that I’ve worked with for years. It’s also why I have trained as a coach. No culture change strategy will get off the ground without the leaders who create the climate committing to it.

On organisational values:

The business had some great HR policies about leadership values and behaviours, innovation and so on. These clearly hadn’t been sent to the CEO, and he’d obviously missed the group hug leadership courses… Kevin was experiencing in acute form the gulf between a company’s stated values and the actual behaviour of the senior leadership team.” 

At the book launch, Liam was asked if he’d ever experienced a company where the leaders behaved in line with the organisation’s ‘values’. “No”. 

Aside from this obvious hypocrisy, there’s another reason I dislike the term ‘values’ in an organisational setting. Values are personal, formed in childhood, and incredibly hard (but not impossible) to shift. We can’t expect even the best-intentioned of leaders to ‘put on’ new values every time they join a new organisation. That’s why I much prefer ‘behaviours’ or ‘principles’. These are things you can do at a behavioural level, not who you are at an identity level. 

On diversity:

Liam offers a blistering critique on what it’s like to navigate “the theatre of performative male ego” as a senior woman in many businesses. It’s a brave, and probably unpopular view. But…  

“I will use whatever male privilege I have to call out the appalling state of affairs so many women in leadership have to put up with.” 

Thank you, Liam. Belters include: 

“’Yes we need more women, of course we do, and black people too, but we can’t level down, we must only recruit top talent’. The assumption being made here – which I am always expected to agree with – is that leadership teams and boards are just bursting with fabulously talented middle-aged guys who have made it there solely because of their dazzling skills and unmatched business success and wisdom. Well, sorry lads, but having spent 20 years and more in and out of exco and board meetings, I have rarely been dazzled.” 

Ouch.

On keeping on:

Our efforts seem so trivial, pathetic, in face of what’s happening but we can’t give up Liam. I can’t stop Putin but I won’t let him stop me. I can’t change the world probably but I can change the bit I’m in. We double down old man, we double down.”

Cath, Liam’s Mentee

“Pessimism, as poet Salena Godden wrote, is for lightweights.” 

Here’s to doubling down. 

2022 looked like this

Work

Communications coaching – For the management team of a pioneering pharmaceutical research company on communicating a big change with clarity, empathy and compassion.

Employee value proposition – A nice, pacey project delivering an EVP for some of the smartest and kindest people I’ve ever worked with. And a together day at an old prison-turned-fancy-hospital. 

Rebrand project – Bringing employees in to co-create a big change. At times it has felt a bit like this 👇, thanks to lawyers (doing their very necessary and important job). We’ll get there. 

Company Principles – Designing and launching some Principles with a long-term client. And collaborating on an animation with Al Boardman.

Revamping Company Behaviours – In line with a new EVP I’d worked on in 2021. Also, learning how to create an emoji.

Business & career coaching – With some brilliant people, helping them unlock situations that were holding them back.

Reverse mentoring – Frank discussions with a CEO about diversity, equity and inclusion, and sharing my (good and bad!) experiences as a woman at work. 

Growth

Learned how to work in the open – I loved Giles Turnbull’s Working in the Open course. His blog is worth a read and has inspired mine. Also learned how RSS readers can bypass the doom-scroll and be a source of joy and discovery. Appreciate I’m probably 20 years behind the curve on this one. 

That’s Giles. He showed us that even Tolkien’s first Lord of the Rings draft was bad.

Learning how to coach – Learned (still learning) loads about psychology. It has opened my mind to how humans are both unique and extraordinary, and also quite similar on a fundamental level. Learned how powerful just listening is, and how to “tame my advice-monkey” (in spite of the fact giving advice is part of how I earn a living currently).

Biggest fail – Learned that perfection is the enemy of the good. I missed a critical window to get something pretty great out the door because we spent too long getting it perfect. 

Increased my uncertainty tolerance – I enjoyed Sam Conniff’s Uncertainty Experts online course so much I did it twice. 

Learned Sustainability Essentials for Business – Completed the Cambridge Institute for Sustainability Leadership course and got an actual certificate.

Launched this website – (After too long procrastinating about it) and learned WordPress. Thanks Chris! I love it! 

Learned not to take a five year old to Paris. 🇫🇷

Family

Didn’t take enough holidays. I realised I may have taken fewer weeks off this year than when I was employed. That wasn’t the plan. Do better, next year.

I thought having two kids at school would create more space in life. Not this year, at least. I feel privileged to earn a living in a flexible way, so that I can deliver intense periods of work when clients require it, and make adjustments when my family needs it, too. 

People

Worked with some lovely people who filled the team-shaped hole I’ve felt at times, working for myself.

It’s been delightful to watch some long-term clients making huge progress and needing me a little less.

In the same vein, continued to mentor a comms exec who doesn’t really need me anymore (but when we do meet, it’s always productive and joyful). 

Made a new friend/work-friend locally (yay!).

Worked from home a bit too much. For me at least – we’re all different.

Didn’t see enough friends, enough of the time.

Community

Ran staff and parent engagement surveys for the school where I’m a governor. Worked together on action plans. Such amazing people, under such pressure. We really are blessed to send our son there.

Enjoyed getting to know my neighbours better after two years of waving at a distance. The ‘safari supper’ returned! 

Next year

Developing my coaching practice – I’d like to work with leaders who want to work on getting their message across, connecting with their people, and building productive and engaging cultures. 

Some associate work with some cool agencies, hopefully.

And more meaningful work with interesting people.

See ya. 🎄

“What is valued here” is not the same as “shared values”

In my coaching training, we are currently doing some heavy work on values. Everyone has values, even if they don’t give them any thought. Values are usually formed in childhood and for most people they’re subconscious. I’m also currently working on some company values (well, ‘principles’, actually). 

Most companies default to professing “shared values” when they want to communicate what they’re about. But are values dreamed up in a board room ever really “shared”? And can a company even have values? 

You can observe a culture and see clearly what is valued there. It’s usually the ‘rules of survival’, how to get on there.

The behaviours that are rewarded and sanctioned –
who gets promoted and what for, who gets fired and what for –
tell you pretty much everything you need to know about a culture.

In a truly values-led organisation, those things are coherent with the professed values on the posters on the walls. In many organisations, the reality is not that simple, and would make for a rather messy mural. In a toxic culture, the reality can be quite the opposite – and that expectation/reality gap will likely lead to a talent exodus. 

I have experienced cultures where the real values do align with the posters on the wall. One was a manufacturing business. To say safety was a life or death issue was not an overstatement. When an employee reprimanded me for standing on a chair to take a photo, I saw that safety was a deeply embedded value (and that also I was unlikely to get my personal ‘adventure’ value met at that company). 

So if work is done to really discover what the culture actually values (rather than just what they say), and that is something leaders are willing to put on the company website, then yes, maybe a company can hold ‘shared values’.

But it’s still my least favourite way of talking about what a company stands for, and here’s why. This might get a bit semantic for some people’s tastes, but then semantics matter when you’re expressing what really matters in as few words as possible.

“Shared values” misunderstand how humans work
Values are one of the most sacred parts of our identity. Given that our values are mostly shaped before the age of seven, to demand that new recruits sign up to and share the company’s values is a bit Orwellian for my taste, and I think shows a fundamental ignorance of human nature.

Homogeneity is not a good business strategy
Even if you were to find a group of people who did actually share the company’s values (a likely statistical impossibility), what would it be like to work in a team where everyone cared about exactly the same things? You’d have groupthink in the extreme, and a disaster for innovation. 

Values are too static
For me, values are just too passive for the job that many companies intend them for. Values – like integrity, respect, communication, excellence – tend to be nouns. Nouns are words for things, objects. They are stationary. They do not force action or cause positive change (as Enron demonstrated, an oldie but goodie example of why professed “shared values” can have very little to do with what is actually valued).  

Photo by Hello I’m Nik on Unsplash

What’s the alternative? 

Generally, I prefer the ‘call to arms’ of a verb. A doing word. Something active, that galvanises movement. 

To choose the ‘classification’ I think about what we’re trying to articulate, and what we want them to do for the culture. Here are some examples of where I’ve seen it done well:

Tenets > defined as a principle upon which a belief is formed, these are foundational statements that the organisation holds to be true. Helpful if you want to align your people to a particular approach or way of doing things. I like Herman Miller’s.

Behaviours > one of my clients wanted to send clear messages to the employee culture about what it takes to get on here, and so we went with ‘behaviours’.

Positions > as seen at Public Digital. Longer, for sure, but thoughtful, and fully considered – appropriate to the work they do and understood by their clients.

Principles > I suggested this approach for a client because it does two connected things: communicates what we stand for, and acts as ‘guiding’ principles for how we do things. 

Not an exhaustive list, but all good names for the ‘things’, depending on what you want to do with them.

(You can always drop me a line if you’d like some help in creating something of real value.)

“Listen as if your life depended on it”

I’m becoming a coach. On the Very Hungry Caterpillar scale of transformation, I’d say I am currently at Wednesday; ‘three plums’ and still hungry. Strong foundations, but lots more to consume. Sometime in February, I should emerge from my training as an enabling, unlocking and qualified butterfly.

When I tell people, they are often curious to understand what coaching really is.

“So are you going to be a business coach or a life coach?”

“It’s a bit like therapy for work, right?”

and

“Maybe you can coach me!”

(Maybe I can 😊 )

It’s more than “you go, girl” and definitely a lot less of “if I were you, I’d climb that skyscraper / confront that jerk / astound that boss”. It’s not mentoring; giving your opinion and advice. Which is interesting, given that that’s literally the way that I earn money. That was a struggle to reconcile at first, until (in a coaching conversation) the penny dropped and I realised it’s really two sides of the same coin: helping people/teams/workplaces to thrive. 

Coaching is like having a supportive ‘sounding board’, but one with insight, experience and some killer questions that help you realise what’s really going on here. Because most of the time, it’s something that we haven’t quite put our finger on yet. And I don’t draw a hard distinction between business coaching and life coaching. We all bring what’s going on in our life into work, and our work always affects our life. Putting life and work in separate buckets with lids on won’t create much momentum.

I invested in coaching last year as a client. It helped me figure out what I really wanted from this moment of my life, and what to do next in order to get it (work in progress). It has helped me to make braver decisions and stick my neck out with more confidence, and for that I’ll be forever grateful to Anna! 

I’m learning to coach alongside some special people – since we coach each other twice a week we are getting to know each other pretty well. They come from all over, but there are some interesting strands that that pull us together:

  • Burnt out / disillusioned by a toxic workplace 
  • Genuine desire to help people
  • A strong strand of HR professionals in there (no surprise)
  • Looking for meaningful work that works for them

My plan is to use my coaching skills to help leaders shape more healthy, productive workplaces and nudge company cultures to be more human. I’m about to start pro bono coaching with three clients as part of my training. In the very short term, it will just be a privilege to help a few people make more progress in the direction they want.  

Downsizing with dignity

Layoffs or redundancies are, unfortunately, a necessary process in many businesses that have been around more than a few years. Whether they’re a reaction to changes at the top or external economics, they (almost) always come as a shock to the employee culture. No HR person looks forward to announcing that people’s jobs are at risk. But there are good and bad ways to do it, and there is a shred of meaning to be derived from knowing that you’ve tried to do your best by people.  

There are some case studies playing out live at Twitter and Facebook. Elon Musk’s knee-jerk, clumsy and entitled approach is shocking. People who found out they were out of a job by being locked out of their emails at 3am then got an email to their personal account signed “Thank you, Twitter”. I feel for the heartbroken comms and HR people who wrote it, powerless to the autocracy above them. Mark Zuckerberg appears to have done a slightly better job by the 11,000 people whose jobs are at risk globally (but it’s a low bar). 

While I’m watching with fascination and angst as these real-time case studies play out, it’s made me reflect on my own experiences. Being part of a multinational that announced hundreds of redundancies several times, and watching close team members lose their jobs. Letting a team member who I cared for know their role was at risk. Wishing to be made redundant myself when it was definitely (past) time for me to leave. And working with clients as they announce redundancies in their teams (and do an honorable and dignified job of it). 

Here are ten things I’ve learned about how to do it well. It’s not a definitive list, but I think Elon could learn a bit from it. 

  1. Treat people with dignity at all times. Sounds obvious, but after you’ve been negotiating tensely over spreadsheets for weeks it’s easy to distance yourself from the human reality that these aren’t numbers, they’re people.  
  2. Try to do it once and well. Repeated rounds of job uncertainty feels like death by a thousand cuts to the psychological safety of employees.
  3. Don’t use redundancies as a way to deal with poor performance. Aside from the fact that it’s legally very slippery (I’m no lawyer, please don’t quote me), it makes the poor performance seem incidental. Dealing with poor performance honestly but sensitively is a very useful signal to the culture about what’s expected here. Covering it up in an unnecessary ‘restructure’ just creates uncertainty and distraction for people in the team who are performing well.
  4. Be as transparent as possible. Give people a reason and a narrative about why it’s happening and why it’s the tough, but right, decision. If you don’t, they’ll only make up their own narrative which is likely to be far more dramatic or cynical than the truth.
  5. Take accountability (but spare the false humility). It doesn’t feel good to receive bad news signed off with a faceless “thank you, Twitter”. To be fair, Mark Zuckerbeg did “take accountability for these decisions and for how we got here”. But that admission of guilt is not likely to breed much goodwill or forgiveness from those plunged unexpectedly into a now flooded job market. The best CEOs own the decision, but don’t make it about them. Rather than expressing their personal anguish, they clearly communicate how they will do right by those employees affected.  
  6. Be as generous as you can. Leavers are your alumni. If you treat them well, they’ll say good things about you when you are hiring again one day. It’s a good investment in your employer brand. 
  7. Re-write your comms calendar. It’s not time for jazz hands right now. Be sensitive to those that are going through a process, and to those whose close colleagues are. You’ll still be working on future-focussed stuff, but do it in the background for now. It’s insensitive to talk openly about an exciting future that may only exist for a percentage of people listening.
  8. Plan for a dip in productivity. There’s no greater uncertainty than job cuts for employees. It will send many on your team into ‘fight, flight or freeze’ mode, waiting for an axe to fall even if they’ve been reassured. Whether their role is at risk or not, this is pretty much the only thing they’ll be able to focus on right now, and it will take time and a lot of reassurance to move on. 
  9. Expect collateral damage. This is going to shake things up. People realise that no one’s indispensable. Some will be resentful and will want to leave, with two fingers up as they do it. You won’t avoid this. But could voluntary redundancy be a helpful way to limit some of these unintended consequences?   
  10. Plan for how you’ll pick people up, after the fact. You’ll need to give those who choose to say a reason to re-engage. But start gently and sensitively, listen, and adjust accordingly. 

Blog post number one.

Welcome. 👋

I’ve started writing a blog for two reasons.

Firstly, ever since 2018, when I left my employment of 12 years (and left status, friends and security behind too), I’ve felt the urge to write.  

The second is, I get asked “what is it that you really do, Helen?” quite a lot.

Perhaps I can answer the second question by meeting the first need. 

From Giles Turnbull’s fabulous ‘Working in the open’ course

Inspired and nudged by two wise people who showed up in my life briefly and recently (👆& 👇), I’m going to write about what I know, do and notice, and see where it goes. It will mostly be about the world of work and how we can make it more human. But also about freelance consulting, and a bit about having a family in all that too. Hopefully my collection of thoughts might be helpful to a few people at some point. 

“The metric is human connection. Are you creating human connection in what you do? When you notice the human connection, follow that.”

Pete Mosley, coach and author of ‘The Art of Shouting Quietly’, whom I met a week or so ago on my coaching course. That’s another blog post.

So here goes.